Have you just changed your relationship status from being single to “in a relationship”? That’s awesome. Congrats!
There’s nothing more exciting than a new relationship … someone out there thinks you’re funny! And cute! And smart! They want to know all about your day and respond to your texts at once … it doesn’t get any better than that.
The feeling of new love is one of the most incredible feelings we’re gifted with on this earth; it should be nurtured and enjoyed. However, although it’s a special time to create unforgettable memories, entering a new relationship isn’t like tearing the wrapper off a Christmas present. You have to take time to open the layers.
We have a few golden rules shared by relationship experts on how to navigate those first fragile months:
- Be cool. There’s no rush. Don’t always be the person texting first, calling first, or initiating plans.
- Meet often, but not too often. If the relationship is real, it’s not going anywhere. Go on dates once or twice a week. The logic? When we spend a lot of concentrated time with someone we’ve just met, we develop a false sense of intimacy and connectedness – which often leads to feeling deeply invested in a person before you even know them.
- Keep living your life. Continue to spend time with friends and family, exercise, work hard, make time for hobbies and passions, and value your alone time. If all of this is cast aside or neglected, not only will that say something about your loyalty, but it will place too much pressure on your partner to be your everything.
- Don’t talk about the future until it’s time to talk about the future. Focus on today, not tomorrow. Unless your relationship is already strong, avoid conversations about marriage and babies.
- Be adventurous. Did somebody say dance? Try new things together as well as with other couples or colleagues. It can be illuminating to see your partner navigating different situations. Maybe they’re always nice to you but turn competitive around friends. Good to know, right?
- Take it slow. Sex can be intoxicating, no issues there! But, it’s good to have your new boo wanting more. During sexual intimacy, our bodies release chemicals – including the so-called “love hormone” oxytocin – that promote strong emotional reactions and bonding which cloud our judgement. If the person is kind and good and wants the same things as you, there’s no problem. But if he/she doesn’t have the same relationship goals as you, you may end up feeling lonely and betrayed.
- Be real. It’s too exhausting not to be yourself. Compromise is good, but always stay true to who you are.
- Don’t be possessive. This is a sign of jealousy and insecurity and are red big red flags in any relationship. Simply enjoy each other’s company while getting to know each other.
We tend to get so lost in the over-thinking part of it all that we forget that falling for someone and developing a relationship is FUN. The dopey grin, the butterflies … it’s a special time between the two of you, whether it ends up working out or not.
So, be happy in your “couple bubble” – as corny as that sounds!
Source: www.mydomaine.com, www.womanshealthmag.com, www.eharmony.co.uk, www.anewmode.com, www.glamour.com, thoughtcatalog.com, www.health.com, www.yourtango.com, www.askmen.com, www.lovesutras.com, www.lovepanky.com, www.inspiringtips.com, www.bustle.com
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